Love Is Blind: Sweden (Love is Blind: Sverige)

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- I mean, we've been serious for so long. - I know.

- This was how we bonded in the beginning. - Yeah. Our first date was all laughs.

Yeah.

Eyes on the prize, they say. Eyes on the prize.

And to me she is definitely first prize.

- You're very Christian. I'm not Christian. - Okay.

- She always says "very." - Can I explain?

- Yeah. - You're a Christian or you're not.

If you'd met an atheist, you wouldn't question their values like that.

It's not that you don't have good values, but do we have the same values?

I go back and forth in my mind.

Well, there she is.

And it's really hard.

It's our engagement party, and I'm going into it unsure.

You're walking away. I don't know what you're doing.

Can I have my phone? And the key. Okay, thanks and goodbye.

It's an uneasy feeling for me. You're going from 100 to…

To zero.

I think a lot about what other people are gonna think

about our relationship.

I can tell that Aron is a good guy.

You can't find a better guy.

- I felt it right away. - Yeah. Really?

Yeah.

I just never thought I'd feel this way. I'm obsessed.

- Aw. -

It feels good, right?

But my routine and my life is in Jönköping right now.

Are you getting cold feet about moving now?

I mean, the decision has just been made so quickly.

- We had a fight. - Mm.

And then I said to him, "Daniel, you know you're gaslighting me."

And he recorded everything on his cellphone.

What?

- Daniel says you started recording. - No. I said,

"I should record this so you get to hear what you sound like right now."

- So I said, "I'll record too." - You said it after an hour.

She brought it up first.

Now it feels more like you have built up a wall.

She brought it up first. Like, please take a chill pill.

I want us to get married,

but the fact that me and the lady don't agree is another thing.

Johanna is a tough bastard. I'd rather do military service again.

I'd rather do that. This is a lot harder. The military service was easy.

Hi. I didn't know you were here.

You'd rather do military service again than be with me?

I'd rather do military service than this experiment.

And I'm being honest.

The fact that you came from it, though, makes it worth it.

- Tonight was really nice. - Mm-hmm.

It was great. And I'm like…

I'm not gonna sit here and try and find something wrong.

But if you want to bring up things that I think are unnecessary… Um…

Like the thing with the recording, for example. That was really unnecessary.

Do you understand that Ronja and Angelica pulled me aside

and said, "The fact that you're recording each other's conversations

made us come to you."

I was like, "That's interesting to hear that,

because we said we wouldn't bring it up here."

I just want to be honest throughout the whole thing.

Then I told them that you said to me, "We should record this conversation."

I said, "We should record this because we are repeating and repeating."

- You suggested it first. - Yeah.

But I would never record you without saying, "I'm gonna record you right now."

Well, then I said I recorded it, and you heard… You got to--

You never said so.

You recorded me for an hour, and then you told me you had recorded.

- Because you said you recorded me. - I've never done that.

I said, "When Johanna brought it up,

I had never heard that you can record each other's conversations."

You were the one… "She was the one who brought it up."

"Johanna said we should record what we were talking about."

You told them that, right?

"Since we're going around in circles, this should be recorded."

That's exactly what I said. I never said anything else.

- Record all the conversations you want. - I would never do that.

You were the one that brought it up, not me, right?

- I would never record a conversation. - You brought it up, right?

We're going in circles again.

But wait, who brought up that we should record ourselves?

- I said we should record the conversation. - Exactly.

Yes, but it doesn't mean you should record.

The thing was that you brought it up with me

and you brought up that you wanted to record us.

So I recorded so we'd have the same conversation recorded.

The conversation was going nowhere, it wasn't a particularly important one.

But to turn this into a big thing today…

And I love Ronja and Angelica, I really do, for pulling me aside and saying,

"You recorded a conversation." And then I said, "She suggested it."

"She'll never admit it," they said. "That's not the Johanna we know."

Then you show up and admit that you were the one who brought up

recording the conversation. It wasn't me.

That was nice of you, and I'm extremely grateful for that

because you really stood up for me.

They said, "We thought you were a fucking psycho for recording."

No, I'd never do that.

But, uh, I'm not interested in being right at all.

And, uh, I'll never accuse you of anything,

or look for your faults and blame you, like who said what

or who said "record" and who didn't.

You and I have been open about the recording.

I didn't think it was a big deal.

Since we were both actually open about… "I'm recording."

"And so am I. Here's the recording."

It wasn't a big deal. The recording isn't that big a deal for us.

That's where we should leave it.

Leave it in love, sweetheart.

We have very different opinions and thoughts about things.

But sweetheart…

I'm falling in love with you. It's really tough.

Yeah.

And you don't feel that way?

What do you feel?

I feel like we're going in circles again.

- But what circles, sweetheart? - I don't know.

I just want you to be well and happy.

I would actually like to go and visit my mom.

But we're not in an argument. You and I need to… I mean, stop now.

Johanna?

Sweetheart, come on.

Oof.

Hey, how are you?

What's up? What are you doing?

What's happening right now?

No, no, it was a… No, it was a pocket call, but, uh…

It's always something. Everything is taken so seriously here.

Yeah…

No, I don't think so. That's not how I take it, really. Not meanness.

SWEDEN

How was the party for you?

- Do you have to? - No.

- No? - No.

No.

- It was nice to see everybody. - Yeah.

Daniel and Johanna, I feel like they…

I don't know, I feel like they're, like… just a tough nut to crack.

Yeah, totally.

But it's also easy to forget that we've only known each other for a month.

I've never been in a relationship where, after only just a month,

have been able to figure out how to be during an argument, how you communicate…

- Mm. - I don't know.

Yeah, that's it.

I mean, I feel like you and I have come a long way,

- but we still have a lot of to work on. - Yeah.

We've talked and you've said you're moving.

- Yeah. - Good.

- I hope. - What?

- What? - What, "I hope"?

I need to get a job.

- Of course, but you are a doctor. - Yeah.

But isn't it possible to be a doctor anywhere?

Yeah, but I'm doing a specific thing.

Yeah, but I mean--

I can't just move and then work doing something I don't want to do.

But, like, could you imagine taking a job that's not…

- exactly what you want to do? - Well, regardless

of what I do, it's gonna be a different job.

Mm-hmm.

- I won't have the same opportunities here. - No.

But I haven't gotten a job, so I don't know when.

But in your experience, would it be a couple of months, six months, a year?

As soon as possible.

- And that is… - I haven't got a job, so who knows.

- No… - But as soon as possible.

I don't want to have a long-distance relationship for years.

- No, that's nice. Okay. - Is that what you want?

- I think that's what I want to hear. - Why can't you ask that question instead?

Yeah, but why don't you just say that then?

You ask when I'm moving and I don't know.

Yeah, but you still gotta have a goal, right?

But please, I need to get a job.

I need to finish my residency. I'm not sure I'll finish in August.

- No? But isn't that done though? - No, I have to finish everything.

You said you'd be done in August.

Now it feels like you've exaggerated this a bit.

I haven't, have I?

- Feels like it. - Why?

"As soon as possible" for me means if you're finished in August,

then as soon as possible would be September.

- That won't work. - Why not?

I have three months' notice.

- Okay, I had no idea about that. - Everyone has three months' notice.

September, October, November?

- Mm. - Mm?

I have to get a job too.

You told me it's not a stress.

But you can acknowledge that it's now gone from, like, August to sort of February.

- And it's… - It was never about August.

No, but I'm supposed to say yes to you at the altar.

So I'd like to know when you think we can live together as a couple.

I don't think it's at all ideal to get married

and then live long-distance for a year.

No, I'm not exactly thrilled. I'm really not.

But you're not the one that…

- I'm not the one to what? - You're not rearranging

your whole life around.

- No. - No.

So, like…