Love (Kjærlighet)

I do realize that this is very grim news. But understand that it's treatable.

Your condition is serious, but it can be treated.

-Right, uhm ... -Yes?

-Can I ask you something? -Yes, of course.

The treatment, is it ...

Will I have to ask for sick leave?

Yes. Not right away, but during treatment.

Treatment, as in pills?

No. Either surgery or radiation therapy, and both have side effects.

Let me know if I'm going too fast.

Surgery means remove your prostate, which will result in sterility.

But so would the radiation treatment.

Both treatments will affect your erectile function.

This can be partially remedied by training,

but your erections will likely never be the same.

Incontinence is another common side effect, but many are not affected.

I would recommend surgery. But in the end, the choice is all yours.

This happens to many men at some point.

If the patient is elderly, we sometimes choose not to treat it. But you are not.

You should let this sink in for a bit.

Do you have any questions right now? You can ask me anything.

No.

WEDNESDAY, 6 AUGUST

-Can I ask you something? -Of course.

-I'm not sure if he truly grasped it. -Really?

-You didn't get the same impression? -No ...?

Well, it's not uncommon that the patient is unable to ...

Maybe more so than usual.

He didn't have any questions, but that's not uncommon.

Next patient?

Please answer. What did she tell you?

They can't let you leave with no answers.

-Bjørn Holm? -What are they supposed to do?

Well, I don't know, but ... It isn't malignant, is it?

I think so. I didn't quite catch what she said.

-You didn't ask? -I must ask for sick leave.

You must ask until you get a clear answer!

-Please join me. -Why?

There's someone you need to see.

-I'll go ask. -No, you don't.

-Yes. -No.

Can you ask both of them to come back inside?

-Hi. -How are you?

SEX / DREAMS / LOVE

DREAMS / LOVE

LOVE

All the art we see here, tells us something.

I think it's essential that we see

the city hall decorations as a message to all of us living in Oslo.

And with that in mind, you will see

that the whole building radiates human values.

That frieze, for instance, displays

different constellations of women with children.

To the left, a single woman with child.

And next to her, two women with a child together.

I interpret it as an approvement of both single mothers and same-sex parenthood.

And in extension, an unequivocal municipal tribute to homosexuality.

Isn't that wonderful? This is my friend Marianne, by the way.

Feel free to join us. Let's find some other good examples on the west wall.

In this country, we do love sports achievements.

So I love the fact that the sport they chose

is one which to such a degree embraces the feminine.

Namely, figure skating!

Here we see the very symbol of Oslo - the Oslo Girl.

Or the "Oslo Woman", as I like to call her.

See how she stands there, watching and listening.

Beholding her city. I think that's really nice.

On this side, I'd like to show you these two sculptures

which stand out from the rest. The Fisherman by Nils Flakstad.

It represents one of Norway's most important industries.

But we must not forget that the fisherman is also an ancient symbol of Christ.

Therefore, I love to see this figure as a loving and forgiving Christ figure

holding his hand in blessing over the lives of all citizens of Oslo.

And all that encompasses, of dreams and worries ...

And needs, not least sexual needs, which I'd like to link to a figure over here.

This is the sole sculpture which explicitly deals with sexuality.

We see a rendezvous between three people.

A couple on the right, single man on the left.

This meeting is tingling with sexual tension.

Something's clearly going on between the man on the left and the woman on the right.

But if you study the man on the right,

isn't his gaze also turned toward the other man?

Now look down at his hands, folded over his crotch.

What does that signify? Will this end in a sexual fusion of the three?

A threesome, quite simply? Such things happen.

People have different sexual needs and preferences,

which Jesus sees and acknowledges as part of creation.

What I find especially interesting, is that

such a prominent spot on our town hall's outer wall has been dedicated to sexuality.

I find that so moving and considerate.

-But ... isn't this a bit narrow? -How so?

I mean, it seems a bit too niche ...

This is supposed to be the very foundation of Oslo's 100-year anniversary celebration.

A national celebration. Flair and party ...

Yes, and we've planned plenty of events in the city around this theme.

-It should go on for days. -Yes. It's an ongoing process that we ...

What do you envisage, specifically?

Making a budget is hard when we don't know what we're working on.

We do have specific suggestions ...

But it won't be just one day.

It's supposed to include everybody.

Absolutely! It's for everybody! But who's "everybody"?

Isn't "everybody" us?

Many little niches for women and men and different ...

And together we're everybody.

See you tomorrow.

-Bye. -Bye.

-That did not go well. -It did!

No, it didn't go well. Can we go and have coffee somewhere?

Don't we have to catch the ferry?

We don't have to be at Nesodden for another two hours. We have plenty of time.

-These were your ideas. -Yes, my presentation.

Everyone presents their idea, then we decide together.

There's also a consultancy firm, of course, who have a proposal.

But it must be based on concern for people.

You think so?

-Me? You think so too. -I do? How so?

When I applied for this job, you said:

"Working for the municipality is an opportunity to help people."

-I said that? -Yes.

-Were you talking about your own job? -Maybe?

"Maybe" ...

You say such things without thinking, Marianne.

"When you speak my name, I go wild with joy

that you know what I'm called." Remember that you wrote that to me?

Yes, you bet.

It's a quote from Ragnar Hovland. What made you think of that now?

I don't know, probably because you said "Marianne".

Tell me more about tonight.

What's happening tonight is ...

I've put together a team to work out the details.

There's a composer, an architect,

a choreographer ... And then we're ...

But what about the geologist? He does know I'm coming?

Yes, of course.

I have a great feeling about it.

Well, it's probably just in my head, but I think you will hit it off.

Hit it off ...

And it's a nice setting for you to meet with other people there,

- so it won't be so stiff, you know... -But I tend to hit it off with many people.

-What, how ...? -No, I just ...

I kind of lose the ... It just seems so much more important to you.

-That you meet someone? -Mm.

No.

No, it's not that.

-No, that's not it. -No?

It's not like I talk a lot about missing having a boyfriend, or do I?

No, you don't.

I probably just see it from my point of view.

I stressed so much about meeting someone.

But you have said that you are open to meeting someone.

Yes, I am.

But when you say you were so stressed about not finding someone,

what were you so stressed about?

I don't really know.

You used to love being alone.

Is it the security a relationship brings?

-Maybe ... -I've been thinking about that a lot.

I don't feel insecure in life. And neither do you.

No.

Well, I like being married.

I'm simpler than you in that way.

After seven or eight years in that flat, you decide to buy a bedside table?

It never occurred to me. Where can I get one?

IKEA, I guess. Or a used one online. What kind do you want?

It must be a low one that matches the bed.

-You'll need two. -No.

You can't have a double bed with a table on one side. That's sad.

Who cares? Why is that sad?

Buying two is not ...

Hi! Are you also going to a party?

-Party? -More like a get-together.

-Or an inspirational meeting. -OK. I'm on my way home.

-You live at Nesodden? I had no idea. -No, I'm not. I'm just borrowing a cabin.

I've been spending the summer there.

-Heidi, my friend, and Tor, my colleague. -Pleasure.

-Have fun, regardless. -We will.

-See you tomorrow? -Sure. Bye.

-Is he a doctor? -No, a nurse.

-I have to find a mirror. -I'll just go outside.

Hi!

You can't take for granted that people actually get what you say.

I've been thinking about that patient all day.

-I'm so glad you caught that. -Well, he reminded me of my dad.

-I can be a bit like that, too. -You can?

Well, I can relate to not daring to ask in case I make a fool of myself.

-I see. Where are you from? -Hobøl, in Østfold county.

-Did you grow up on a farm? -No, but my mum did.

-I see. -But they weren't farmers.

They're ordinary folk. My dad worked in construction.

-And you became a nurse. -Yes, eventually.

I never imagined that you were from Hobøl, or even Østfold.

No? Because I'm so good-looking?

-Do you think you're that good-looking? -I was joking.

But I have been told by people when going out.

No, really?

"You're too good-looking to come from Østfold."

-Do people really say that? -Nah. Or yes, it's happened a few times.

Maybe it's the dialect. It's hard to be taken seriously.

-You can't tell he's from Østfold. -No.