Sex, Love & Goop

If you're watching this, you probably have a pretty good idea

what this series is about.

We're having sex, it's a show about sex...

...we're gonna talk about sex.

Hello.

I founded goop 13 years ago

to unearth cutting-edge ideas that could really help us optimize our lives.

We thought it was about time that we take this approach to sex and intimacy.

Don't resist. Allow it to come through.

You have total permission to have an erection.

Oh.

We found some extraordinarily brave volunteers...

My mom was a Jehovah's Witness.

They love lesbians.

Yeah, they're huge fans.

...willing to reveal what we normally keep hidden.

Each couple was matched with a phenomenal practitioner.

So, people come to me sometimes because they want to learn how to squirt.

- That's the whole clitoris. - Hmm.

What is sexological bodywork?

- Would you like me to go further? - Yeah.

I bet you didn't know you could have energetic orgasms, did you?

Would you do that?

- Yeah. I think I might. - Yeah.

I enlisted my friend and intimacy expert, Michaela Boehm.

We've been in tantra positions pretty close together.

Oh, yes.

Ah! I feel so much better.

We're gonna have to work on the sexy factor a bit.

Right there's the sweet spot.

- Man, that's kinky. - This is great.

Oh, my God. What just happened to me?

It's probably gonna be a little embarrassing and weird.

Oh, man. No pressure.

Okay.

Do you want me to put on the Iron Man suit? Would that relax you?

So, how are you all feeling about this?

- Excited. - Yeah?

- Curious. - Nervous.

A little nervous?

What's the... What's the nervous part?

I think that we don't know what's coming, necessarily.

- We don't either. - Yeah.

Yeah, I feel, like, down, like, ready to do this.

I feel... a little bit old.

Just...

Like the grandmother I am.

I feel vulnerable too.

You guys are showing an incredible amount of bravery and courageousness because,

you know, this is a particularly vulnerable subject.

It's not only, uh, just an incredible bravery

for you to show up with each other,

we'll discuss things that you might have never said to your partner,

and that's really, really wild when that happens in a relationship.

It's really great that you guys did this, and we're excited to be a part of this.

Hi, I'm Damon.

And I'm Erika.

And we've been together for about six years.

Six years.

The first time I saw her, I think I fell in love with her.

I'm an artist by trade.

When I met her, I was drawing caricatures out by the beach,

and when I saw her, I literally said,

"Yeah, she looks like she could be my wife."

You know I love you.

Will you marry me?

Yeah. I do.

You do?

Are you crazy?

If I'm completely honest, I think the number-one thing we have is love,

because communication is not there a lot of times.

Like, we get frustrated with each other and, like, argue and fight.

We have the...

We have the dumbest fights.

Do you fight about sex?

We have.

- Yeah. Definitely. - Yeah.

I'm more experienced than she is.

Sexually, I feel she's very conservative.

Sexually, we're very different people.

That's been a frustrating thing.

So is it fundamentally a communication issue?

Or it's like a mismatch in sexuality? How would you characterize it?

I think it's more of a communication thing than sexuality.

I feel, uh, once we start having sex, you know...

It's okay. We're having sex!

It's a show about sex. We're gonna talk about sex.

When I was a kid, the worst part about going to school

was getting up to go to school.

Once I was at school, everything's good.

Great.

See, I like to go to school, so...

Which is like how we are, basically.

We are very different when it comes to, like, the way we want the other one to be.

I like music and I like sensual, and he's kind of like...

I like R&B.

- I like soul. - No, I'm not talking about music.

What? Look...

He'll very much just be like, "I'm horny. Like, aren't you?"

And for me I'm like, "Wait. I was just washing dishes." Like...

And for me, I think as a guy, it's way easier.

She turns me on.

I mean, it's as simple as that, she turns me on.

When she walks around the house, that's enough to turn me on. But...

I need stimulation more than just, like, penetration, basically is the point, like...

I've had a penetration orgasm twice in my entire life.

It's hard because I want her to really enjoy it.

I mean, who else would you want to please more than anybody else?

So one of the things that's amazing in this here is

the people you have access to

and how they've been vetted

and what they're about and how cutting-edge they are.

You're paired up with a really, really good practitioner.

I think it's gonna be a really interesting journey.

My name is Jaiya, and I help couples to have hot, juicy sex lives

by learning more about their sexuality,

and I'm the founder of the Erotic Blueprints

and the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough.

People are wired differently when it comes to their eroticism.

So Erotic Blueprints are a language to help people understand

more about who they are as erotic beings.

I love that we are here doing this on camera,

and the reason why I love it is because

I know that if one person viewing this, it changes their erotic lives,

it's worth it.

I love this water.

Oh, check out that statue.

Wow, that's beautiful.

Wow.

So, here we are.

Here we are.

Here we are.

We're here now to help the two of you,

and so there's orgasmic pleasure on the plate.

One of the things I wanted to set up as we talk about your pleasure and orgasm

is that there's no pressure here.

So there's no pressure for you to perform or have an orgasm or any of that.

The journey is what I would like to focus on.

So there's five different Erotic Blueprints,

and the first one is energetic.

And an energetic is someone who's turned on by anticipation.

They like to have yearning, longing.

So then there's the sensual,

and a sensual is someone who's turned on by all of their senses being ignited.

That's the senses of smell, taste, sight, touch, all of that being ignited.

The sexual is someone who's turned on by what we think of as sex in our culture.

So, intercourse, orgasms, penetration, genitals, nudity. Those kinds of things.

The kinky is turned on by whatever's taboo.

So whatever is taboo for you becomes the turn-on,

and that could be psychological or it can be more sensation-based.

And then the shapeshifter.

The shapeshifter is someone who's turned on by all of it.

So it's the whole smorgasbord.

Nothing is ever too much.

So the both of you have taken the Erotic Blueprints quiz.

The online quiz tells you what's happening

pretty much from a mental standpoint of each blueprint.

- Yeah. - And I have your quiz results.

So, what's really interesting when I'm looking at couples' blueprints

is oftentimes they're opposites.

So they'll have, like, their highest one is their partner's lowest one.

So, what I thought was most interesting was your lowest, so I'm gonna start there.

So, in terms of sexual was your lowest blueprint,

and you were 12.9% sexual.

Damon, your lowest was kinky, 5% kinky.

- But your highest, Damon, is sexual. - All right.

So when I talk about you speaking different languages, this is what I mean.

You speak sexual.

With my own partner, I'm highest in sexual,

so my highest percentage was sexual on my test as well.

When I would initiate sex with my partner, I would touch his genitals and be like...

Like, in the car or randomly, those kinds of things,

and he'd look at me like, "What are you doing?"

- "I'm trying to drive." - Right.

"I'm trying to do the dishes, or I'm trying to do other things."

"What is this?" And it feels like it's coming out of left field.

So, what's interesting, Erika, is I thought for sure, just talking to you,

that you would be highest in sensual.

- Okay. - That'd be your highest blueprint.

But you're actually highest in energetic.

Huh.

What's fascinating is that right under your energetic,

almost the same percentage,

is kinky.

Okay.

So you have, like, energetic and kinky at the top,

and your kinky is the lowest.

Oh, wow.

Energetic kinky.

And the picture that puts in my mind is crazy.

What's the picture?

I mean, somebody jumping and running around, you know...

"Ah!"

You know, with the whips and leather, and,

like, "You're not done! You're not done!"

I think one of the really important things here is that we'll redefine kink for you,

for you both, like, what that means, 'cause it doesn't have to mean gags.

And then the energetic piece isn't about, like,

"I have all this energy and I'm running around."

It's about...