Do Women Have a Higher Sex Drive?

I mean, for years,

men have thought that they were smarter than women.

Women in universities in the U.K.

do better than men in nearly every area of performance.

That's according to new research.

For years, men have thought

that women should not work.

And that was 2009, when women became

more than 50% of the workforce.

And for years,

men have thought that women couldn't lead.

And last year, for the first time,

women became 54% of all American managers.

For years, men have thought

that women could not fight.

The Senate just voted on a bill that would have women

be eligible to be drafted into the US military

for the first time in American history.

And Kinsey mentioned that for years,

men have thought that women had a lower sex drive.

Women in the past were sexually

very different than women of today.

But now there's a cable channel

that just shows porn for women.

The female orgasm can be

10 times more powerful than the male orgasm.

Women have a wider range of arousal than men.

I think sexuality is more part of a woman's identity.

If women were raised

to think of themselves as sexual creatures,

you would probably see a very different world.

Growing up, I never realized

that I had a high sex drive.

Not until I discovered that sex seemed to feel

more special to me.

It's not that the guys I dated didn't think it was special.

It's just that, for me, it felt richer, deeper.

It was more satisfying.

It's like we were doing the same thing,

but I had a totally different experience.

Am I the only woman who feels this way?

Or are there more women who feel like me?

It depends. If-If-If the man

is in love with his woman,

he will feel love with emotions.

But if he, you know, it's like one-night stand,

he just-- he just, uh,

fulfills his pleasure.

That's it.

And I think for a woman,

there's always such amount of emotions.

I think for a woman, it's more important.

I think for the man, because of his... it bolsters his ego.

Yes, for a woman, because we have more sexual energy.

I think it's about the same.

Oh, there are differences, but...

Yes, I definitely think that women have a higher sex drive,

because, for us it's more sensual, and it just feels deeper.

I have to say women

because they crave affection,

and guys, they just...

For men, it's more important

to have lots of sex with different people.

They both like it, but men want it more often.

For women, it's important to make this

one act of sex they do

an important thing.

There's apparently a shortage of possible romantic partners.

Complaints of a man drought...

The search for love is in a state of emergency.

What's keeping them from finding their Prince Charming?

People don't want to admit what the reality is.

Professional black women are not making it up.

Australia is caught up in a man drought.

Finding the right man is proving elusive.

It's not easy out there. There's definitely a man drought.

I'm feeling it. It's hard to find a date, even.

Look, if you're a woman, and you've been wondering

where all the men have gone,

the good news is that it's not in your head,

but the bad news is that you're actually right.

There is a massive shortage of men.

Millions of women know just what it feels like

to look around at the men on offer

and think, "No, thanks."

Okay, delay, delay, delay, as much as you possibly can,

until you know that you've met someone

that you can be happy with for the rest of your life.

Growing up with romantic comedies,

you do tend to think that life should be like a Reese Witherspoon movie,

that you should be swept off your feet.

Some successful women

have had good men and didn't know it.

Men and women have always had different opinions about sex,

but according to dating experts, there has never been

such a major shift in relationships than in the last 15 years.

Today I am meeting one of those dating experts,

Marcia Chong.

In her work, she talks about

how modern gender roles have completely changed the dating game,

and how years of experience have led her

to an interesting conclusion.

She believes that sex is more important for women,

and today I want to find out why.

When it comes to sex and attraction,

every woman has a secret that we never share with men,

because if we did, things might get a little awkward.

You see, every woman has a list,

a list of all the things we want in a man.

Now, the problem is not the list.

The problem is the size of the list

and the fact that it is that detailed.

For example, he has to be tall, handsome,

strong, educated and ambitious,

have a good job, have a nice house, a car,

and he has to be social and fit in with our family.

And of course, he has to be a good kisser,

a good lover, and a great father for our children.

But, unfortunately,

only a few men can meet those high expectations,

and that's why many men think that women aren't interested in sex.

But we are. It's just that

most men don't make the list.

And we call this the 80/20 principle.

-The 80/20 principle? -Yes.

It's a marketing principle that's also used in the dating world,

and it means that 80% of the women

are only interested in 20% of the men.

For example, dating profiles.

While men like roughly half of the women on the site,

most women only like 20% of the men.

And this is why women are so competitive in the dating world,

and I think even more than men.

Because most women are interested in a very small group of men.

But it's getting worse.

Dating for women is becoming harder and harder.

-What do you mean? -For the first time in history,

women are out-performing men in nearly every category.

More women are graduating,

becoming doctors, lawyers, bankers,

and all these changes are dramatically transforming the dating culture.

Because these days, women are not dependent on men anymore.

We have our own careers, our own houses, social lives,

and we can provide for ourselves.

So now women only settle with the best.

A man has to have added value.

And if a man has lower education or earns less,

he might be less interesting to women.

So as our status increases,

so do our expectations,

and our lists become longer and longer.

Yes, that's right. And this also impacts men.

It makes men frustrated and confused,

because less and less women find them interesting.

You see, in the past, almost everyone got married,

because it was seen as a necessity.

And a good provider had a good chance of getting married.

But now, that guarantee is gone.

And another thing is that women these days

want a soul mate to talk about feelings with a man.

But at the same time, he has to be firm and rugged.

And this is also confusing men.

But why are our expectations so high?

I think this has to do with biology.

A man can produce millions of sperm cells every day,

but a woman can only get pregnant a few times in her life.

So she wants the best husband,

father and provider for her child,

or else she could end up raising her child alone.

It's like a handgun versus a machine gun.

If you had a handgun with only six bullets,

wouldn't you be very selective in how you use it?

Yeah, I guess I would be very selective.

But I recently read a study

that showed that women cheat as much as men.

Do you think this is true?

Yes. Most people think that men cheat more.

But in reality, that's not true.

Because all these men don't just cheat with single women.

But I think there's one major difference--

women are better at keeping it a secret.

Are you saying we're better at cheating?

In my experience, men are more obvious

and women are more subtle.

But for a woman, it's more important to know

if their partner is cheating.

Woman worry about it more,

and that's why a lot of women need more validation.

When she asks, "Do you love me?"

or "How much do you love me?"

these aren't random questions, they actually go back to evolution.

Because when a woman becomes pregnant,

she's very dependent and vulnerable.

So if her partner leaves her while she's pregnant, she has a big problem.

Men, on the other hand, do not experience

that level of vulnerability.

So who do you think has a higher sex drive?

-Men or women? -I think women do

because we check out men all the time.

So women think about sex more than men,