Freakier Friday

Hi, welcome back. I'm Dr. Tess Coleman, and this is Rebelling with Respect.

Today on the podcast, we are talking about a relationship

dynamic that is very close to my heart.

Grand co-parenting. When my daughter Anna chose to

become a single mom, it changed our family forever.

Ryan, Clophis, recording. Sorry.

As a grandma, I was able to step up and help her.

Harper, this is your 30-minute warning that we're leaving for school.

Harp, this is now your 20-minute warning.

10 minutes. Yes, confirm the recording sessions,

but know that I know she can sell out more than the Greek.

And yes, I know how many seats there are.

Harper, I really want to respect your space, but

I'm curious as to why you're not out here yet.

You have five minutes. Being someone that your loved one

can lean on is the most important relationship there is.

Ryan, I'm getting so good at this. No. No, no, no. Oh, it didn't record.

Hi, mom. Now is not a great time.

I know, but I finished my podcast early, so I'm offering to do drop-off.

No, it's okay.

I've got everything under control. Harper, you had to 10 minutes ago.

Prepare to be triggered. These waves are unreal. I love our lives.

Yo, are we skipping first period? Oh, shoot. We gotta go.

Barely. I made your favorite lunch. How was Pickleball yesterday? Did you beat him?

We say annihilated. Mom, I told you I could take her. I know, sweetheart. But I saw in

your stories that you were working at the studio late, and so I decided to take her.

You know, it would be healthy for you to unfollow me. And I work late all the time.

I can still take her. Anna, let's pause and reframe.

When you decided to be a single mom, I told you I would

support you 100%. Well, this is me supporting you 100%.

Okay, you know what? I'm coming too.

We can both do drop-off this morning. Mom. No, go on. You can go. Just let them.

Okay, you're not going. Mom. You're gonna go.

You're not. Nobody's gonna go. I'm gonna go.

So, what's up, kiddo? Nothing. Okay, spill it.

All right, my new lab partner is the absolute worst.

She's the new girl here for the year.

I mean, she thinks she's so much better than

everyone because she's British, which she has to remind you of every five seconds,

like no one's ever been from England before.

So, my dad opened his third restaurant in Paris.

And that's how I met my French boyfriend, Philippe Henry. Oh, Philippe Henry.

He's French and modern. We've seriously been

to Paris Fashion Week and a winter scald at me.

Seriously? What's Paris like? Oh, it's lovely.

I go all the time. Ignore the British girl

after this year. You won't have to see her anymore. Nice advice. You're a therapist.

Well, I'm not a therapist. I'm her grandma. All right. Well, this has been real.

Please drive away like you don't know me. Make your choices. You are so lame.

Blame. Are you ready for laboratory today?

Shut your mouth. Fun bonus round today. Never trust an atom. Why?

Because they make up everything. You're all day, Pope.

You're supposed to put your goggles on before we start.

The goggles are giving million. Yeah, we're not like minions.

So, no, thank you. But they're perfect for you.

It's like the Revolutionary War was for nothing.

Today, remember, these are dangerous chemicals.

Maybe we should use not dangerous chemicals.

How about you do your actual share of the work instead of doodling?

It's called designing. The measurements have to be precise.

This experiment is so simple. In the UK, we did this in primary school.

The only reason people think you're smart is because of your obnoxious accent.

At least people think I'm clever. What's that supposed to mean?

You're smart. Figure it out.

Oh, no. Oh, no.

Oh, no. Oh, no.

That was not precise.

That was not precise at all!

Oh. Principal Walden?

I don't know, Mom. I don't know why the principal called me.

But I'm here, so you don't need to come.

You know what? I can't find what I was going to tell you about.

I have to call you. Oh, sorry.

It's totally my fault.

No, no, no. I wasn't looking where I was going.

Oh!

Are you okay?

Are you okay?

Yeah, I don't know how to tell this thing off.

Yeah, I'm not sure either.

I think... Is it off?

I think you've got it, yeah.

Oh, thank you.

No problem.

Thank you.

My daughter just started here, and I admit I'm quite lost.

Would you happen to know where the chemistry lab is?

This is serious.

Someone could have been injured.

I'm sure it was just an accident.

It seems to me in this understanding, Harper seems so lovely.

Oh, Lily seems so genuine and kind.

Wow, I certainly never had two parents come in here and be this attractive.

I'm a detentive.

Lily and I are definitely going to reflect on how to do better.

This is all Harper and I are going to think about.

We're very, very committed, especially as a single-parent household.

Oh, us too. We're single-parent.

Great.

I mean, I'm a single-parent.

Great. Yes.

Same. Me too.

Single.

Single-parent. Guilty.

I'm single too. Should we meet up?

Perhaps our daughters should get to know each other.

Maybe like Wednesdays after six, get a little wine, talk about these badass kids.

Harper would really like that.

Oh, dinner?

Dinner sounds perfect.

I'm on it.

Petit trois? Yes.

Gonna have a table for two private.

In the back.

Do you guys have any allergies?

No.

No, no allergies.

Okay, you came here early.

Spill it.

There's just no time.

Bachelorette party, dance rehearsal, final

fitting, rehearsal lunch, and oh, my wedding.

You have a lot on your plate.

Big day, deep breath.

There's so much to do before Sunday.

Let us know how we can help.

Maybe someone could help me memorize my wedding vows.

How about this?

I'll help you.

I, Anna, take you, Eric, a man that I have been dating for six months,

but might uproot my entire life and move to London,

where we have no family and an avocado costs $11.

Perhaps you should add something about my undying patience for a teenage rebellion.

It was put on by the avocado.

Oh, that wasn't about you.

It was actually about my mom's other British fiance.

She's a comedian today, just today, now.

Right, Harper?

I have been practicing our first dance.

Wait till you see what I am cooking.

Ooh, I see what you did there.

I missed you since yesterday.

Ew.

I think we can all guess who it might be about.

Hello!

I had my pastry chef make sticky toffee pudding pavlova for the bake sale.

Just what every teenager loves, pavlova.

Agreed. Teenagers these days, sophisticated parlors.

Well, this pastry chef was up at 4 a.m. baking old-fashioned chocolate chip cookies

from scratch with no staff.

Four hours for cookies? I think we need to get you the stuff.

They just needed to cool.

Stand up straight. Good posture.

And do you know how bad this is for you?

Seriously, eat this.

Say, thanks.

I saw that, Harper.

Just trying to keep some change on hand.

Hi. Well, we wouldn't want to be off schedule in it.

Hi, Lil. It's Lily.

Lily, back seat.

Can't Grahams just take me?

No, this will be good bonding for everyone.

I bond best with Lil E when we're not around

each other and I don't have to look at her face.

I love sitting next to you. It reminds me that I'm amazing.

All right.

All right.

I got you.

You got me.

Good morning.

We're ready to go. Good morning.

Car is all set. Up the coast. Real one.

Yeah?

Yeah. Yeah? What do you think?

I'm not saying I don't not want to go on the trip.

I'm just saying that Anna's wedding has put me behind

with my patients, which has been very disruptive.

And, and of course, they keep adding dates to my book tour, which,

you know, is not out of my control.

And I'm just saying I need a little time.

Look, we're trying to hear you. Just try and hear us.

Oh, no. I hear you trying to pull me away from my family and my friends.

I mean, who even gets to surf before school in London?

You can surf on the river Thames.

Really? No, you dipstick.

Girls.

It's a city.

Okay, girls. Girls. It's our decision.

Eric and I will do what's right for the family.

Family?

Yes, this family.

Don't say it like that.

That sounds really good.

Don't you tell me what to say and how to say.

How about relax? Don't be so dramatic.

Lily, stop gaslighting.

What? You don't even know what that means.

I don't want to look at your face any more.

You know what that means, right?