Let’s Marry Harry

Twenty women signed up to marry me.

Let's find you a wife.

Harry Jowsey is officially getting married.

Your future, Harry.

That's crazy.

Think with your head and your heart.

I know you like to think with a few other things.

Horny Harry needs to think about the future.

I need to take this next chapter as serious as I can.

I think you're making a horrible mistake.

I could be your best friend, but I don't know if I could be your husband.

I just know for a fact, in my heart,

it's gonna end at some point.

["Under Your Spell" by Moa L M Munoz & Ryan T. Short playing]

I'm here for a reason. I'm here to find my wife.

- You have the best energy. - You're a dream.

I think you're way beyond more than what I ever thought you would be.

-Before this whole thing, I bought a ring. - Mm-hm.

So I wanna give it to you.

I am falling for him.

I am.

You're perfect.

I'm in very-strong-like with him right now.

What're you doing?

Get naked.

Is this really what's happening? Is that what we're doing?

-Oh my God. -They're having sex in the shower.

If something is not right, then I just need to listen to my gut.

You're down to the wire with these two women,

so it's like, "What do you want?"

I definitely am falling in love with you.

I'm falling in love with you too.

The wedding's pretty soon. Are you guys in love with each other?

-Yeah. -Yeah. We are.

It's just like-- It's all becoming more real now.

The big wedding day, you know, it's days away at this point.

I came to New Zealand to find clarity,

but all I've got is confusion.

Now, I just-- I don't even know if I am ready for this.

["Over The Towans" by Caleb Harris playing]

I have not slept.

I had two hours of sleep last night.

You know, leaving New Zealand was a very confusing and difficult thing.

My brain is all over the place. It's scrambled eggs right now.

I just feel like life would be so different but so fun with both of them.

But I just feel like an absolute knob

because I'm here…

in a predicament with two of the most amazing women I've ever met,

two of the most exciting, exquisite women I've ever met,

and now I just-- I don't even know if I am ready for this.

I think I need more time.

Oh God.

Hi! Oh!

- Hey. - Oh!

Do we have a shot of coffee coming?

-We missed you. - I missed you guys.

- How are you? -How you doing?

We're good.

Looking good! Look at you, slim and trim.

- Really? - Yeah.

Hey, I'm coming over here.

-Come sit-- drink some coffee. - Drink your coffee!

-She's desperate to see you. -Hey, Rubie.

How we doing, guys?

Oh my gosh, we're doing great. You gotta tell us about you.

It's… it's going terrible. I don't know.

-What do you mean? -I don't know.

There were five birds left when we left.

-Five women. -In Vegas?

-Yeah, you gotta catch us up. -Oh, okay.

We left you after the elimination. You were on your own.

-Damn, I haven't seen you in that long? -No. And then you flew to Vegas.

-Um, so now we're down to the final two. - Oh…

-Amber and Dannelle. -Okay.

And I don't know which one to choose.

- Okay, so you're stuck. - That's the thing.

And I've got a wedding in probably-- literally, what, like, 48 hours?

-Yeah. - So…

That's so natural, mate,

because, like, the scenario you lot are in is… is mental.

Have you done any kind of pros and cons about the two of them?

You have a big decision to make.

What's your favorite thing you love about Amber,

and then your favorite thing you love about Dannelle?

I really love Amber's, um, confidence in how she thinks about the world

and just being laid back.

Yeah, I like that about her a lot.

With Dannelle, it's always been a safe… We've always been good on each other.

And I just-- I love, uh, Dannelle's tenderness

and how sweet she is and how soft she is.

She's one of those people that once she loves and trusts you,

that is her entire world.

-They are so different. - So different.

-That's the hardest thing. - This is hard.

It's almost like marrying somebody that's gonna be, like, right by your side,

kind of taking care of you,

versus somebody who's, like, your partner in crime.

-Mm, yeah. - Do you feel like that a bit?

I think when I went to New Zealand, I had a good idea

of, "This is gonna help bring some clarity."

-Okay. -And it brought everything but clarity.

I think I was just extremely overwhelmed, and I really went backwards.

I really went in my shell.

-Um… -Like, you just wanted to be alone?

Just wanted to be alone. Didn't want to be around anyone.

The last day, I went and sat on the beach where I last went with my dad.

And it just all hit me at once, and I kind of cried it all out.

I think that these moments in life where we question

and we get really low and, like, deep,

like you had in New Zealand after your dad,

and you came back here questioning life, and you feel lost,

these are good moments to have.

You gotta go low to go high.

Like, you have to feel that to know actually what's important.

And so don't think of that as, like, a negative thing.

Think of it as a really good thing.

Anytime we have to question what we're doing, where we're at,

"Why am I doing this? Why am I here?"

Those are good things

'cause it just makes you go further in life.

Yeah, I just…

I don't know. Like, I just… Say I go to the wedding, I pick no one.

-What happens? -No one?

To not even continue seeing at all?

-No one. Just no marriage, no nothing. - Ooh.

There should be zero pressure on you.

Just say, "This ain't the right time."

I don't know if I like that.

You have two amazing women, you're saying, in front of you right now.

Like, don't take that for granted.

If you really, truly do love these two women, then go for it.

So difficult,

to have two very different perspectives from Sonny and Amanda,

people I trust the most in the world.

Now, they're even confused with each other.

And my sisters didn't help. These guys didn't help.

I'm no help.

This is the biggest realization of today, is that this is my decision.

And it's, um… yeah, a little bit-- a little bit daunting.

["Lucky One" by Rupert Pope & Giles Palmer playing]

Being back in LA from New Zealand,

knowing that there's a wedding coming up,

makes me feel really excited.

New Zealand definitely locked me into Harry.

Like, seeing him with his family

and seeing him around the place that shaped him as a person

was really special.

I know it's the first one I tried on, but I love it.

The word "marriage" traumatizes me a little bit

because I've been married before, and that came with a divorce.

But with Harry, I don't feel weird about it anymore.

I feel like this is something so magical and so rare.

Now, I don't know which one to pick. I love this dress too.

If anything, I feel more excited. Like, it would be such a fun life.

Oh my God. Hi!

Hi! What do you guys think?

I think it's stunning!

I think you'll make any dress look amazing.

Are you guys ready and excited for me to get married?

I have mixed feelings.

I think my mom protects herself a lot

because when you protect yourself, you don't have to feel pain too much.

And I do think she latches onto a lot of fear-based thoughts

because it keeps her safe,

and she's always projected that onto me.

I feel like it's so unhealthy.

And I’m the type of girl that's, like-- I jump right into it.

For me, I really had to come in here with, like, a…

a deep understanding of that.

I went to the cemetery today, and I talked to your dad about it,

and I was like, “Dude, you can see what we can't see,

you know Harry better than we know Harry,

so either, like, bring it on or block it.”

That's his job.

Well, we'll be looking out for the signs.

But you look beautiful!

I love you guys. I'll talk to you soon.

Okay, love you!

-Bye. - Bye!

I've really, like, had to crack myself open here

and, like, look at love in so many ways.

Like, figuring out how to have a life with love in it

without feeling scared.

Because I think people get really scared to let love in,

because on the other side of it, there's loss.

So I think that's something I definitely struggled with,

and something I'm rewriting for my future right now.