Tiger Mom (虎妈猫爸)

Episode 25

Now, let's take a look at parents in China.

Most of the parents would take over the children's dreams by force

because of the hardships and sufferings that you went through.

You hope that they can grow up the way you did.

You feel comforted.

You feel relieved.

But I'm sorry.

It's you who feels relieved, not your children.

They have lost the ability to discover happiness.

Isn't this a selfish act of adults?

Have you ever thought about

what children really feel?

This is a joke.

Do I have to adjust my actions according to how my child feels?

What does a child understand?

You're wrong.

I don't believe that none of you have had a nightmare.

A nightmare of your childhood.

You didn't memorize a word, but the exams are about to start.

You forgot all your lines when you're about to go on stage.

Everyone in our generation has all woken up in tears from a nightmare.

At that time, you were scared and tormented by fear.

Where were your parents then?

How much did you need them then?

Do you still wish for your children to have such nightmares

and wake up in tears?

Don't ruin lives with the excuse of making them successful.

Give them back the happiness that they rightfully own.

Parents are children's best friends.

You should get close to them.

Be brave and tell them, 'My child, be yourself.'

'Someone else is already doing it.'

- I'll walk you out? - That's not necessary.

Is your entire family here to mock at me?

How could that be?

How does she know about my condition?

I really don't have a clue. Du Feng!

Wait for a while. It will be ready soon.

Mommy, I said that to Godmother.

What did you say to her?

I told her that you loved me more when I was in kindergarten.

Silly child.

Do you know when I was the happiest?

Qian Qian, I have the habit of keeping a diary.

Would you like me to read to you an important entry in my diary?

- Yes! - Okay.

August 5th, 2008.

My baby finally arrived in this world.

You cried so badly.

Mommy took you over from the nurse

and Daddy almost fainted from seeing so much blood.

But this is the happiest day

of your dad's and my life.

Qian Qian, I'll love you just as much as I always do.

Go to sleep.

She's asleep?

Stay calm.

Speak up. Did you give Tang Lin some inside information?

Wifey, aren't you moved by what you just said to Qian Qian?

I am, but that doesn't stop me from interrogating you.

Yes... I did give Tang Lin some basic information on Du Feng...

See? Your despicable behavior is now exposed.

You want to see Du Feng lose the debate

so you brought the whole family to mock at him?

I just want him to learn a lesson.

Learn a lesson, my neck!

Do you think that I have no idea?

I saw that the look in your eyes was weird when you walked in.

Yes! I admit it!

I want him to lose the debate!

I don't wish for Qian Qian to be tormented. So what?

Childish... Why are you so childish?

Do you think that the outcome of the debate will sway me?

Boring.

You're so advanced now?

May I ask what you really think?

All theories co-exist. Remove falsehood and retain the truth.

I'm going to have my own perspective on education.

Your own perspective?

I think that everyone can discuss endlessly about children's education.

It's because every child is an individual.

A good mother exceeds that of numerous experts.

I'm impressed.

You may now go.

Why don't you dare to attend it?

You don't wish to meet the one who defeated you

or that you don't wish to step into the place where you were defeated?

This is an outdated trick to provoke me.

- Any new tricks? - Tang Lin invited you formally.

Can't you man up a bit?

I realized that I fell for your trap right from the start.

Who are you trying to make fun of?

That is not my intention.

I just think that you are both better than I am.

I'd like to see what I can learn from your discussions.

Take Yi Nuo with you.

Work on your father and son relationship.

It's not necessary.

Parents, the first step in baking a cake is to crack the eggs.

We need three eggs.

Then separate the egg whites for the egg yolks.

Let's begin now.

- Here, Qian Qian. - Qian Qian.

Slower!

That's right.

You don't pull it apart too wide.

Leave a crack

and the egg white will seep through.

Right? This will do.

What are you thinking?

Why can't you be more attentive?

Use your brains!

You don't use your brains for anything.

Is that what your teacher taught you?

Don't be so anxious, and don't always talk to him like that.

You keep criticizing him.

I think that Yi Nuo is doing pretty well.

Yi Nuo, you can do it.

Didn't you see that we have to sift the flour?

How is it?

This is my first parent-and-child course.

This theory that you learned abroad does work quite well.

This sort of courses not only spark the children's interest in chores

and self-management

but also improves the relationship between children and their parents.

You're right.

Help them out a bit more?

I've already had a taste of his temper.

- He's more stubborn than you. - You can demonstrate your ability.

Am I right?

Qian Qian! You added too much flour in it!

Now we won't get a good batter.

Did you see how the others do it?

Crack another egg in here.

Mommy, I don't want to make this anymore.

That won't do! Whatever we set out to do

we mustn't quit halfway through.

How many times have I told you that? Did I not emphasize this every time?

- Sheng Nan, don't you think that... - What are you thinking?

- you're both quite alike? - What are you thinking? Hold on to it!

What is your other hand doing?

Is it a prosthesis?

Parents, please listen up!

We have to help children develop their interests carefully

and patiently.

If we're too impatient and criticize them more than praising them

we'll cause a negative reaction.

Did you hear what Tang Lin said?

You have to encourage her.

Look carefully.

The egg shell is in it! Are you going to eat that?

Eat that and see how it is?

I think that you're the one with problems.

If you don't believe in him, step aside and don't say a word.

Can you watch him do it without saying a word?

It pisses me off to see you do a chore.

We'll do it together.

Qian Qian! How can you pour so much milk into it?

How many times have I told you?

The proportion is wrong!

It's now so thin and watery!

Godmother, my mom is telling me off again.

This is making a cake, not a game.

You're learning a new skill. Understand?

Sheng Nan, why don't you take a stroll or read some magazines?

Come back later.

You can see what they produced in the end.

Why don't you go take a stroll?

You want me to leave as well?

No, look...

Mommy, leave right now! Now!

How can you talk to Mommy like that?

Wait for our cake.

Go on and work on it!

Whisk it on this side.

Where are you going?

This is such a waste of time.

Why must we bake cakes?

We can just buy some.

I really shouldn't listen to you and waste time here.

- I'm taking him home. - Come back here!

She's an expert who studied in the States.

She specializes in improving a child's behavior and talent.

You can't reject this course.

If you didn't attend it, you won't discover your problems.

Do you cook at home?

Besides criticizing Yi Nuo, do you know what he thinks?

Whose side are you on?

I'm asking you to reflect on yourself.

If you don't have the patience to even cook with him

how will you grow up with him?

What about you?

What about me?

Your husband has more right than you do to say those words.

All parents play good cop, bad cop.

How could we both be good cops?

So I had to play the bad cop.

I don't want to either!

I'm the only parent, so how do I play both roles?