Tiger Mom (虎妈猫爸)

Episode 21

This is about right.

The three of us should get together more often when we have the time.

Let's go to your place next time.

I haven't been to your chateau yet.

I asked you out today to thank you in person.

What are you thanking me for?

For resolving me and Luo Su's marital issues.

Those are education issues, okay?

Luo Su came to me for advice

so I can't ignore him.

That's why...

I'm here to talk to you properly.

I really learned a lot from your advice.

I said it ages ago

that you can give me advice in person, right?

So this meet-up is a trap?

No, let's get this straight.

What makes you think that Bi Sheng Nan has adopted my method?

What makes me think that?

Simply because your son takes Olympiad math courses

my daughter has to as well.

Your son is first in class, so my daughter has to be first too.

My daughter even has to look to your son for staying up late.

I still don't get it.

What has that got to do with me?

What has that got to do with you?

It's because you're too harsh on your subordinates

and they are too stressed out with nowhere to vent their frustration

so it's displaced on the children!

What's more, do you often work overtime together lately?

Yes, it's been busier lately.

What have you been telling her?

Did you tell her to discipline her child strictly

as well as that theory about the weak and the strong?

That's right. I did say that.

Excuse me for asking you

what is a winner and what is success?

I'm not sure where you learned all those theories.

They do have their own point.

There's wisdom in them.

But they aren't pragmatic. Don't you get it, Tang Lin?

Because we are Chinese families.

Eastern and Western cultures are different.

What the Chinese deem normal

might seem weird to foreigners.

Sheng Nan, what you are trying to tell me is just that

your method is right.

Sure, when I first went to see you

I felt that I might have some issues.

But I don't think so anymore.

Because if I hadn't supervised Qian Qian so closely

she wouldn't have made it so far.

Now that I don't discipline her

her grades keep dropping

and it creates issues at home.

Does it really?

Why aren't you willing to give your child a bit more time?

Not even adults can overcome the harshness in real life.

Why would you push a seven-year-old to do it?

No... That... Tang Lin.

I've wanted to ask you

why you came back this time?

Could it be what I think it is?

Are you here to steal her husband?

What are you talking about, Luo Dan?

Bi Sheng Nan! I'm talking to Tang Lin.

Why do you keep interrupting me?

Tang Lin, is that it?

Luo Dan, isn't it a bit rude to question an old classmate like this?

This also causes some damage to our friendship.

Sheng Nan, we're adults.

We're no longer kids who squabble and get jealous in school.

Since you're so straightforward

I'll be honest with you.

Luo Su isn't happy.

That's what my instinct tells me.

When you're tormenting your child

have you considered how he feels?

Every time Luo Su is dismissed by you

it's not just your child's happiness that you dismissed

but also Luo Su's dignity.

I have no intention of coming between you and him.

But Luo Su is also my friend.

Since he came to me for help

I can't possibly ignore him.

To be frank, I can sum it up in a few words.

Do one's best to do what was entrusted by others.

You mean to say that

there's a problem in my marriage?

It's not just you.

A lot of Chinese families share the same kinds of problems.

Otherwise, why do some couples divorce so easily

after having a child?

It's because the issue of educating their children

cause disagreements in the family.

Problems that the adults have

will be further intensified on the children.

Sure, you can suspect me of having ulterior motives and ill intentions.

But I still have my professional ethics.

Your attitude in educating your child and your concept of family are wrong.

Your husband and child aren't happy under your tyranny.

For example?

All these years, you've been pushing yourself, Luo Su, and your child.

You're suffocating them.

They have no room to breathe.

Did Luo Su tell you that?

No... Tang Lin, what do you mean by that?

- You're here today... - All right, stop it.

What else did Luo Su say?

Do you know how much he misses being alone with you?

Since you've had Qian Qian

love no longer exists between you for the past seven years.

All that's left are responsibilities and fatigue.

Your daughter, Qian Qian, no longer wishes to tell you what she's thinking.

Whenever you appear, she only feels frightened and stressed.

You're the one who has a problem.

You appear to care about Qian Qian

but do you really know what she thinks?

I think that reality is cruel.

You should know that as well.

Reality is cruel

so as adults, we have the duty to shield the children

from all dangers and difficulties instead of

pushing their young and fragile bodies into the battlefield earlier.

Every child is an individual.

They have their own definition of happiness.

I heard that you even discipline your child in a paramilitary way?

I'd like to know how you distinguish between the strong and the weak?

Mr. Luo.

I'm still quite busy.

Can we talk another day?

You're annoyed at me?

I know that you're annoyed at me.

You must be thinking 'Look! That's a loser!'

You only know how to dote on kids.

You give her whatever she wants.

Mr. Du, don't be such a snob.

I'll tell you what sort of man you should be.

You should be a gentle man

instead of a tyrant.

It's up to me what sort of a man I want to be.

I don't need anyone to tell me that!

Your narcissism will only oppress your child.

Didn't we all learn it in history books?

Rebels rise where there's oppression.

He'll become very rebellious

and he won't heed your words!

That's my child.

What he becomes is nobody's business!

Get out now.

I have a few words for you.

You should love and tolerate your child.

You should be a loving father.

Children would only be with the parents for a period of time.

When he goes to university, he won't have anything to do with you.

Get him out of here! Right away!

What's more, you can have this lesson for free.

Listen, you shouldn't overthink.

She is really too well-trained.

Can you pull over? I'd like to get out of the car here.

We're nowhere near anywhere. Why are you getting out now?

Are you okay?

I'd like to be alone for a while.

Go back first.

Buddy, you're too tough.

Have you been provoked lately?

Are you too stressed out?

I heard that there's a problem with software development in your company.

What's wrong?

Only barbarians attack for real!

You're a barbarian!

You really hit me!

Are you venting your anger on me?

- Supervisor Du. - Come in.

- What is this? - You can read it in your free time.

Are you trying to change me with that foreign theory again?

I don't want to change you.

I'd like you to spot the flaws in the theories.

I didn't.

You have quite an original approach to disciplining children.

By others' faults, wise men correct theirs.

You have such a gentle husband at home, but you come to me for advice?

You know my husband?

You can go now.

I'll take a look at it later.

Everything has its nemesis.

What happened?

You didn't know about it?

Your husband came to the company.

My husband was here?

He preached that one in the office until he threw a tantrum.

I've never seen him so anxious before.

He's really something.

No wonder...

No wonder...

The princess and the prince lived happily ever after.

All right, you should sleep now.

Mommy, sleep with me from now on.

Would you like Mommy to sleep with you?