Open Up to Me (Kerron sinulle kaiken)

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It isn't all sunshine.

The lows can be pretty low.

When I think about the teenagers I used to work with...

And of course -

when I think about my daughter-

and how she is -

and what she looks like now.

Last time you said you'd try to contact her once more.

You know what my ex thinks of that.

She's managed to sabotage my relationship with Pinja.

Maybe you shouldn't give up on the idea just yet.

What about work?

You agree you're a bit overqualified for your cleaning job.

The problem is that I'm too honest.

I don't know how to keep my mouth shut at job interviews.

I still dream of helping people through my work.

In some way.

How do you see your chances with men?

Of course I'd like to find a man.

He'd just have to be... exceptional.

On the other hand...

...ordinary?

Maarit, this is our last session, -

so I want to be as open as possible.

I'm sure you've heard the expression -

"You can't make an omelet without breaking eggs."

If you want a man, find one.

And if you want to see your daughter, go ring her doorbell.

Don't hide yourself from people for the rest of your life.

Life's too short for that.

I think our time is up.

Good luck.

Thanks.

Thank you for everything.

A FILM BY SIMO HALINEN

OPEN UP To ME

PRODUCED BY LIISA PENTTILA

WRITTEN AND DIRECTED BY SIMO HALINEN

Listen. What's your name? - Maarit.

I have to close my office and fly to Spain.

My father had a heart attack. Could you tell your boss -

I won't need cleaning for the next two weeks. - Okay.

Make sure you double-lock the door.

Drop this key into the maintenance company's mail slot. - Okay.

Hi.

I'm sorry. The door was open.

I'm a little late. I had trouble finding the right entrance.

Sami Suutari. - Maarit Majantie.

You're not Anna-Liisa'? - No. Anna-Liisa had to travel.

She'll be back in two weeks. - Oh shit.

Can you give me a glass of water'? - Sure.

Please sit down.

Are you Anna-Liisa's assistant? - Y... yes.

My wife goes to her and I was thinking...

Do you have experience with marital crises?

From a man's perspective. - Why'?

You have a moment to talk'?

I haven't slept in three days.

It's that bad'? - Yes.

Sure, we can have a chat. If you want.

That would be great.

Please, come in.

I've felt for a long time I'm just a compromise to Julia, -

someone she tries to live with.

So you're both teachers at the same school?

Yes, I teach physical education and health.

Julia teaches math and chemistry. She's also the vice-principal.

You said your wife can be manipulating.

If you could change one thing about your wife, what would it be?

What would I change? - Yes.

Maybe...

I'd like Julia to be a little...

...less demanding. - Less demanding'?

She can't relax even on weekends.

We have to spend every single moment on personal development -

or quality time with the family, -

renovating the house or writing shopping lists.

She won't give me or the kids a moment's rest.

Did you marry a control freak?

Yes, I think that's the reason I'm sitting here.

These days when we go to bed...

What happens'?

Nothing.

Except that we both feel shitty.

I haven't told this to anyone, but-

I've always been sensitive in that way-

that I was never that macho, mechanical go-getter in bed.

I experienced a lot of failures in sex when I was young.

But then I met Julia and everything worked out great.

But I still knew this was a sore spot for me.

What is?

I don't feel safe if the woman doesn't...

...love you?

Yes. - Sami.

It's a fine and rare quality in a man -

when love and sex go hand in hand.

But for some reason, -

the world isn't an easy place for a man who feels that way.

I always thought therapy was about talking about your mom.

We can do that next time. - Thursday at five, right'?

You play soccer?

I actually coach our U-18 team. - That's a fine sport.

You like to watch it'? - Yeah. I played, too.

Oh. Which team? - FC Jaro.

I didn't know they had a women's team.

I played in the men's team. - As a woman?

No.

You used to be... a man'?

I probably should've told you right away.

If you want to cancel Thursday... - No. No. Absolutely not.

Alright then. Good luck in the game.

Cover the wing. - Yup.

Thanks.

Is Anna-Liisa here? I go to her on Tuesdays, but -

her phone is switched off.

You didn't gel her e-mail? - No.

She'll be out of town for two weeks. Her father is very ill.

Oh crap. - Anna-Liisa wanted me to make sure the door is locked.

Are you family? - No.

I'm her colleague.

Jaana... Korhonen. - Julia Holma.

Since you're her colleague, maybe you can help me.

Can we talk'? - Sure, why not.

Can we keep this between us'? I don't want to interfere -

in Anna-Liisa's patient relationships. - Sure.

My husband and I are going through a crisis.

I asked him to come and meet Anna-Liisa with me.

I'd feel more confident about our future -

if my husband found somebody to talk to.

But Sami has no friends, except his soccer buddies.

So Sami is your husband'? - Yes.

Julia.

It's lovely you're looking for help for your husband.

But don't you think it would be better if he found it himself?

Maybe you should just let go of him and see what happens?

Maybe his eyes will open -

when he sees you're no longer afraid of losing him.

Teo, what's the problem?

Take the balls with you.

Red wine and pizza. On a Tuesday?

I got a feeling today.

Maybe we should take it a little easier.

We should relax. Our home isn't a prison, is it?

No, it isn't.

Are the kids asleep?

I'll go take a shower.

It was amazing.

It was as if Julia read my thoughts.

For once, she was relaxed.

When I went to take a shower, she offered to wash my back.

We had a lot of fun. - Including sex?

It wasn't just the sex.

We felt the same way we did when we first met.

I think we'll get over this crisis if we work on it a little.

I'm glad I can help.

Can I call you if I feel the need to talk?

Okay.

I guess our time is up. - Right.

Thanks. Thanks a lot.

Excuse me, -

but you live in the northern part of town? - Yes. In Malminkartano.

You came by car'? - You need a ride?

If it's no trouble. - No trouble at all.

So you played for FC Jaro'? - Two seasons.

I played for FC Kuusysi in the early 90s.

I think you guys once edged us out of the Finnish Cup.

1992! I remember that game very well. - No way.

What position? - I was a fullback.

No friggin' way!

So you were the one who tripped me in the box during injury time?

I was about to break through!

Sami. First of all, we were fighting for the ball.

Second, the minute you realized you lost the ball, -

you dove like a marine archaeologist.

I always thought that if I ever met the guy...

Now you have.

Yeah. You've made quite a journey.

You had someone who stood by you through the process? - Nope.

You live by yourself?

I'm still waiting for the right one.

The right man.

I imagine you'd find one easily. You're an attractive woman.

Sami. I need to tell you something important.

Go ahead.

Can we go some place and sit down?

Sami, when you have extra practice, -

I have to hire a substitute for my son.

Dad... - Slay out of this!

I wanted Teo to come because he usually organizes our defense.

But that's alright. I won't punish him for that.

Sami, I can see what kind of man you are. I respect you.

You're a man who came to talk to a man.

Teo. You're going to practice tomorrow.

Thanks. - No problem.

Okay, tell me.

Maybe it's better if you don't contact me again,-

at least not for therapy.

Two Desperatas.