A Regular Woman (Nur eine Frau)

My name is Hatun. Hatun Sürücü,

But nobody says hatun to me.

Everyone calls me Aynur Just Aynur

Like the glow of the moon.

You could be me.

Or you.

Or she too.

Or you.

But no

This is me.

My brother shot me.

In February 2005,

I was an honor killing.

The first to be really fat Had press.

Maybe you remember.

Maybe I was you back then ... never mind.

Maybe you think: "So what? Everything was so long ago. "

"Can the don't just stay dead? "

Right, I'm dead.

I have me also presented differently.

But one thing is good about it.

You sit in front of me and listen. So welcome.

Welcome to Germany.

(Song: "Gettin 'Jiggy With It" by Will Smith)

This is me. Seven years before my death.

I go to the Robert Koch high school

in Kreuzberg, eighth grade.

And that's my song.

("Gettin 'Jiggy With It" by Will Smith)

In my leaving certificate it says:

"Aynur is leaving high school at the request of the parents,

to go to Turkey. "

Sounds better than: "Aynur 's parents live on

strictly Sunni-Kurdish Tradition,

that's why she gets married. "

So off to Istanbul.

My groom is already waiting.

He is my cousin.

Chose him my father Rohat.

Developed in a large bakery

for over 20 years.

My family is not like other Muslim families.

My family is strictly religious.

We are nine siblings

(Turkish pop music in the background)

My oldest brother ticked off Drugs and sits in jail a lot.

I got it out deleted my story.

The others were more important.

Brother one: Tarik.

He'll get for my wedding Vacation from the Bundeswehr.

There he is right now.

The good looking there is brother two: Sinan.

Apparently he did a blatantly high IQ.

He is beautiful,

but mainly he's an asshole.

Brother three: Nuri.

The youngest. Back then he wants to still become a professional boxer.

Nuri will shoot me.

Number four remains

Aram, the runaway,

Studies law, go break dancing instead of praying.

For his brothers that's why he's a bum,

not a real man.

For me he is the only one Friend among my brothers.

Nuri!

Nuri!

But first of all they celebrate that I change hands.

From me my father's daughter,

becomes the wife of the husband.

Oh, I almost forgot. You don't understand us.

Neither our culture still our language.

Well, one of the two can be changed.

I'll just switch over.

Don't shame us

I don't, mom.

My mother. Deniya.

Hold your breath.

Don't get loud.

Men don't like women that are loud.

I always have a nice word for him

and cook him good food, right?

My sister,

Shirin.

Keep your body smooth

so that you like him if he wants you.

And in bed you do what botan says.

Sema and Lorin.

Unless it doesn't work tonight.

You know what I mean?

Here,

What am I supposed to do with it?

If he can't, you'll scratch in your fingers.

The blood you smear on the sheet.

If you have to.

Unless, everything is fine anyway.

Aynur, you will be a good woman

that Allah pleases that Botan likes,

and honor us, yes?

I loved her.

Although she too doesn't stick to me. Later,

And?

"Become a disgrace" means to dance out of line.

In a world where only Family and honor count.

"Become a disgrace" means to break with the traditions.

"Become a disgrace" means to have your own will

not the rules to follow the family

and thus to hurt their honor.

This deadly sin can be with us

only one of the two Commit genders.

Just the sister only the daughter,

only the wife.

Because that's the woman Most venerable thing her husband

her father, owns her family.

And if you have the honor stains the men,

if you don't work you have to be punished.

The Federal Criminal Police Office gives six examples

for the misconduct that with can end in honor killing.

Number 1: the woman rejects you from the family

selected husband

and denied the forced marriage,

Number 2: the woman has her virginity

lost before marriage.

As for the two points I was safe.

So I still had three to six.

A year later I have met my husband.

I flee to Berlin.

Back to my home.

Anne.

Aynur?

What are you doing here?

That's impossible. Is my cousin.

I am your sister, Why do not you believe Me?

You have him Reason given.

It doesn't always happen as you wish.

- You messed up everything. - Sinan!

Marriage is not easy sometimes ...

Mom, this marriage is hell.

No matter what happens, you don't separate

least of all with his child in his stomach.

Anne, I have to right away again. Aynur,

What are you doing here?

Hey how are you?

- Baba! - Nuri, get out,

Where's Botan?

You go back

I can't go back.

Mom, I can't go back.

Do not Cry.

It has to be reconciled.

Do you want the little one grew up as a bastard?

Shall she go back to this bastard?

He is your cousin. The family already talking about it.

I do not give a shit. He mustn't hit her.

He is her husband. He punches her because he loves her.

What should he do, if she is not listening?

Why does she want to do not reconcile?

She wants to don't get beat up.

Stop it now!

(the men discuss further)

Allahu akbar.

Allahu akbar.

Allahu akbar.

He lets me stay.

I'm paying the price that our tradition provides.

If a marriage fails, pays the woman.

With humility.

You are allowed to pray.

You are allowed to work.

Hey, I have to piss.

She is allowed, her mother to help in the household.

Leaving the house alone is forbidden to her.

To go back to school is forbidden to her.

But I will no longer be here.

Not as much,

If it gets too greasy you can’t bake anymore.

- Where are you going? - To Cologne.

I want to continue studying there.

Who else do I have when you go

You have to go too. Either way.

- Why not? - I want to stay close.

You will be here don't have a quiet minute.

On a spring day he is born.

Can means life.

- He is so beautiful. Yes.

Such a nice baby.

Tell me honestly, Aynur.

Isn't it bad that his father is not here?

No, bad is something else

Hey, do it now, ey!

Come on now, man!

- man, I have to go to school, - I have to go to work, damn it!

Your work.

Wow, thank you, really. Come out now.

Hey, man, I have to go in!

We sisters share us a room.

That of the brothers is taboo for us.

And vice versa as well.

Where's the eraser? You have the.

Sch!

Give it back to me. Give it back!