Ex-Girlfriends

[ The magnetic fields' "I think I need a new heart" plays ]

>> I like you. I do. I just need a break. >> A break...Up?

I just need a break. >> A break...Up? >> No, no, no, no.

>> A break...Up? >> No, no, no, no. Not a break-up.

>> No, no, no, no. Not a break-up. Just...A break.

Not a break-up. Just...A break. >> What's the difference?

Just...A break. >> What's the difference? I mean, besides two letters...

>> What's the difference? I mean, besides two letters... >> Graham.

I mean, besides two letters... >> Graham. >> ...And a hyphen?

>> Graham. >> ...And a hyphen? >> Okay.

>> ...and a hyphen? >> Okay. It's not that I don't want to be

>> okay. It's not that I don't want to be with you...

It's not that I don't want to be with you... >> If you had known this was

with you... >> If you had known this was gonna happen, you wouldn't have

>> if you had known this was gonna happen, you wouldn't have brought her here.

Gonna happen, you wouldn't have brought her here. You would've gone somewhere

brought her here. You would've gone somewhere where no one knows you.

You would've gone somewhere where no one knows you. Not the place downstairs from

where no one knows you. Not the place downstairs from your apartment.

Not the place downstairs from your apartment. >> I feel like we're really on

your apartment. >> I feel like we're really on different pages, maturity-wise.

>> I feel like we're really on different pages, maturity-wise. Maybe I never really took the

different pages, maturity-wise. Maybe I never really took the time I needed to get over my

maybe I never really took the time I needed to get over my ex-boyfriend.

Time I needed to get over my ex-boyfriend. >> Turkey on wheat.

Ex-boyfriend. >> Turkey on wheat. >> Thanks.

>> Turkey on wheat. >> Thanks. >> Can I get you anything else?

>> Thanks. >> Can I get you anything else? >> No. Thanks.

>> Can I get you anything else? >> No. Thanks. >> Does that make sense?

>> No. Thanks. >> Does that make sense? >> So, are we...

>> Does that make sense? >> So, are we... >> It's not you.

>> So, are we... >> It's not you. It's me.

>> It's not you. It's me. >> So it's you.

It's me. >> So it's you. >> I don't know.

>> So it's you. >> I don't know. Maybe it's kind of you, too.

>> I don't know. Maybe it's kind of you, too. >> So it's me?

Maybe it's kind of you, too. >> So it's me? >> I mean, we just kind of

>> so it's me? >> I mean, we just kind of jumped into something, and I

>> I mean, we just kind of jumped into something, and I didn't take the time to be on my

jumped into something, and I didn't take the time to be on my own.

Didn't take the time to be on my own. And this photography class I'm

own. And this photography class I'm taking is just taking up all my

and this photography class I'm taking is just taking up all my time...

Taking is just taking up all my time... >> Everything was going so we.

Time... >> Everything was going so we. You had introduced her to your

>> everything was going so we. You had introduced her to your parents.

You had introduced her to your parents. She bought you that old

parents. She bought you that old typewriter for your birthday.

She bought you that old typewriter for your birthday. And now you're here -- the

typewriter for your birthday. And now you're here -- the crushing reminder that no

and now you're here -- the crushing reminder that no matter how close you think you

crushing reminder that no matter how close you think you are to someone, you never know

matter how close you think you are to someone, you never know when it's all going to just

are to someone, you never know when it's all going to just fall apart.

When it's all going to just fall apart. >> And you don't answer, or if

fall apart. >> And you don't answer, or if you do answer, it's just like

>> and you don't answer, or if you do answer, it's just like you're not there.

You do answer, it's just like you're not there. >> Graham?

You're not there. >> Graham? Paul.

>> Graham? Paul. >> Paul.

Paul. >> Paul. >> Freshman year.

>> Paul. >> Freshman year. Batel, first floor.

>> Freshman year. Batel, first floor. >> Hi.

Batel, first floor. >> Hi. >> It's so funny I'm just

>> hi. >> It's so funny I'm just running into you now.

>> It's so funny I'm just running into you now. I'm here all the time.

Running into you now. I'm here all the time. >> That's funny.

I'm here all the time. >> That's funny. >> Know who's having a party

>> that's funny. >> Know who's having a party tonight?

>> Know who's having a party tonight? >> No.

Tonight? >> No. >> Sam.

>> No. >> Sam. >> Sam?

>> Sam. >> Sam? >> Sam.

>> Sam? >> Sam. >> Sam. Right.

>> Sam. >> Sam. Right. Yeah.

>> Sam. Right. Yeah. >> Sophomore year, we all lived

yeah. >> Sophomore year, we all lived third floor Stewart.

>> Sophomore year, we all lived third floor Stewart. >> Sam.

Third floor Stewart. >> Sam. >> You got to come.

>> Sam. >> You got to come. You both should come.

>> You got to come. You both should come. I'm gonna text the address later

you both should come. I'm gonna text the address later on, and I will see you there.

I'm gonna text the address later on, and I will see you there. >> All right.

On, and I will see you there. >> All right. >> Ciao.

>> All right. >> Ciao. >> See you.

>> Ciao. >> See you. Sorry. What were you saying?

>> See you. Sorry. What were you saying? >> Well, I was saying that

sorry. What were you saying? >> Well, I was saying that sometimes it doesn't feel like

>> well, I was saying that sometimes it doesn't feel like you're present, like -- like I

sometimes it doesn't feel like you're present, like -- like I don't even know if you're -- if

you're present, like -- like I don't even know if you're -- if you're listening to me or what

don't even know if you're -- if you're listening to me or what I'm thinking.

You're listening to me or what I'm thinking. I mean, I can't tell what you're

I'm thinking. I mean, I can't tell what you're thinking.

I mean, I can't tell what you're thinking. You're just all over the place.

Thinking. You're just all over the place. >> And as you sit there, it Al

you're just all over the place. >> And as you sit there, it Al starts to feel very familiar.

>> And as you sit there, it Al starts to feel very familiar. And all the words start to

starts to feel very familiar. And all the words start to sound like all the other times

and all the words start to sound like all the other times you've been broken up with or

sound like all the other times you've been broken up with or broken up with someone.

You've been broken up with or broken up with someone. And you start to realize that

broken up with someone. And you start to realize that your life might completely be

and you start to realize that your life might completely be going in circles.

Your life might completely be going in circles. >> I just don't think you know

going in circles. >> I just don't think you know what you want.

>> I just don't think you know what you want. But I'd like to stay in touch.

What you want. But I'd like to stay in touch. Maybe we can grab a coffee

but I'd like to stay in touch. Maybe we can grab a coffee sometime.

Maybe we can grab a coffee sometime. [ Dr. dog's "the old days"

sometime. [ Dr. dog's "the old days" plays ]

>> items to be returned/thrown away -- one copy,

>> items to be returned/thrown away -- one copy, "unbearable lightness of being"

away -- one copy, "unbearable lightness of being" with notes in the margins,

"unbearable lightness of being" with notes in the margins, lent/given as gift on second

with notes in the margins, lent/given as gift on second date.

Lent/given as gift on second date. One postcard from trip to

date. One postcard from trip to Spain, affectionate writings on

one postcard from trip to Spain, affectionate writings on the back.

Spain, affectionate writings on the back. One purple shirt, given as

the back. One purple shirt, given as gift, rarely worn except in her

one purple shirt, given as gift, rarely worn except in her presence.

Gift, rarely worn except in her presence. One typewriter, Underwood 1939,

presence. One typewriter, Underwood 1939, given as birthday gift.

One typewriter, Underwood 1939, given as birthday gift. Well, no need to get carried

given as birthday gift. Well, no need to get carried away.

Well, no need to get carried away. Three Bobby pins, date of

away. Three Bobby pins, date of origin unknown.

Three Bobby pins, date of origin unknown. One letter written to Samantha

origin unknown. One letter written to Samantha after first date while she was

one letter written to Samantha after first date while she was in Phoenix for some reason --

after first date while she was in Phoenix for some reason -- unsent.

>> letters from camp girlfrie, circa sixth grade.

>> Letters from camp girlfrie, circa sixth grade. One photo key chain made with

circa sixth grade. One photo key chain made with college girlfriend senior year

one photo key chain made with college girlfriend senior year at last chance dance.

College girlfriend senior year at last chance dance. Photos, various ex-girlfriends.

At last chance dance. Photos, various ex-girlfriends. Old notebooks, ideas for novels

photos, various ex-girlfriends. Old notebooks, ideas for novels that were never written.

Old notebooks, ideas for novels that were never written. Lists of things to do that were

that were never written. Lists of things to do that were never done.

Lists of things to do that were never done. Notes taken during class.

Never done. Notes taken during class. Notes written to distract you

notes taken during class. Notes written to distract you from class.

Notes written to distract you from class. Long entries about girls you

from class. Long entries about girls you haven't thought about in years

long entries about girls you haven't thought about in years who used to seem like the most

haven't thought about in years who used to seem like the most important person in the

who used to seem like the most important person in the world.

Important person in the world. People you've lost track of but

world. People you've lost track of but you still think about

people you've lost track of but you still think about sometimes.

You still think about sometimes.

>> from now on, just move forward, move ahead, focus on

>> from now on, just move forward, move ahead, focus on the present, don't look back,

forward, move ahead, focus on the present, don't look back, don't get caught up thinking

the present, don't look back, don't get caught up thinking about the past.

Don't get caught up thinking about the past. And whatever you do, don't...

About the past. And whatever you do, don't...

And whatever you do, don't...

hey, Paul.

Hey, Paul. Right. Sam's party.

Hey, Paul. Right. Sam's party. Okay.

Right. Sam's party. Okay. See you there.

Hi. [ William Fitzsimmons' "so this is goodbye" plays ]

>> Hey. I know you, man. >> Hey. >> Uh, grant.

>> Hey. >> Uh, grant. >> Graham.

>> Uh, grant. >> Graham. >> Graham! That's it.

>> Graham. >> Graham! That's it. I met you at, um -- where'd we

>> Graham! That's it. I met you at, um -- where'd we meet?

I met you at, um -- where'd we meet? >> When you see her at the

meet? >> When you see her at the party, you're not sure it's her

>> when you see her at the party, you're not sure it's her at first.

Party, you're not sure it's her at first. If it is her, then she's

at first. If it is her, then she's changed her hair, that's for

if it is her, then she's changed her hair, that's for sure.

Changed her hair, that's for sure. It has been three years, so

sure. It has been three years, so that does seem fairly likely.

It has been three years, so that does seem fairly likely.

>> w-we were at that party

>> w-we were at that party together, at the tribec--

>> w-we were at that party together, at the tribec-- >> excuse me.

Together, at the tribec-- >> excuse me. I think that's my ex-girlfriend.

>> Excuse me. I think that's my ex-girlfriend. >> I hate that.