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Is everyone in love?

Welcome to "The Japanese Tradition" Volume 2 KOSAI.

In Japan, love relationships between men and women are called KOSAI.

This video introduces the Japanese art of relationships, KOSAI.

The Encounter: How to Make a Good Impression

There are two ways of meeting a woman. The first is by chance.

Many cases of chance meetings exist: at work, school or travel but...

nice coincidences are rare.

But there's another kind of encounter:

one which seems like a coincidence.

For example...

It all began when I picked up her train pass.

While this does happen, most cases are on purpose.

Thus the "encounter which seems like a coincidence".

Find a girl you fancy at train and bus stops or on the street...

and deliberately create this coincidence-esque encounter.

Begin with tailing.

Patiently wait for her to drop something.

If she luckily drops her train pass, pick it up at once.

Many men know this coincidence-esque encounter technique.

Many Japanese men are gunning for this chance...

so practice daily.

If you successfully grab something, call out to her.

First impressions happen here.

To make a good impression with a winning smile,

bleach your teeth in advance.

Select multiple targets to increase your chances.

When multiple coincidences occur, women tend to feel "it's destiny".

Learn her routine via tailing, then stage the second coincidence.

This will surely improve her impression of you.

The ideal interval between the first and second encounter is 6 days.

A different day of the week is key. If it's 7 days on the same weekday...

She may feel your routines are just similar, thus less of a coincidence.

Staging: Get Her with Your Looks

Many Japanese women highly stress "looks" when selecting a man.

You never know when your target will appear.

Always give full attention to the way you look.

All good looking Japanese men go to the beauty parlor everyday.

Action: A Good Impression with Good Sense

While "looks" are important, women tend to focus on actions.

Actions are key to improving your image so watch yourself.

Knowing how to order coffee can increase your appeal.

too simple, boring

feminine = weak impression

childish impression

mild impression

masculine = good impression.

best choice!

Japanese are bad at making jokes, but being funny is indispensable.

Here we will introduce two ready-to-use jokes.

This morning when I walked outside, it was raining.

But I didn't use an umbrella.

Why you ask?

Because I hadn't had a shower!

1) Explain your bizarre behavior.

2) Explain why you did such a thing.

The paper boy is tardy and says,

"Sorry. I'm late because I overslept".

So I say...

"Hey, good news is always better late".

1) Explain the circumstance and what you were told.

2) Drop your witty punch line.

3) If they don't get it, make a funny face and produce a loud noise.

Just as in other countries, in Japan, a desirable man should be tough.

Japanese women evaluate toughness by jam bottle opening.

To be prepared, be sure to train your muscles everyday.

The Japan Cultural Lab offers our special "Jam Bottle Cap Open Trainer"

Try it out. Order by phone or mail.

Women love to be flattered.

Good flattery makes a woman happy and displays your intelligence.

Basically, likening them to something beautiful works.

You are like... an exquisite rose blossoming amid a vast wasteland.

You are like... a heavenly goddess of beauty gazing at an elegant butterfly...

resting on an exquisite rose blossoming amid a vast wasteland.

You are like... a vast wasteland.

This isn't flattering. Do be careful.

The Push Forward: Making Yourself "Dependable"

Being a persistent stud is key.

A manly guy possesses both physical and spiritual appeal.

The "Fist of Justice" is the best method for expressing these.

Say this after dealing out justice.

Express the regret to use violence even for the sake of justice.

This is the best pattern for showing how great a man you are.

The Pull Back: Effective Use of a Woman's Motherhood

By now, the woman is crazy about you. But remember, haste makes waste.

The potential for disaster exists if you're impatient.

Since things are moving along nicely, you need to play it cool.

Get up your courage and "pull back".

This may sound as though the man is resisting any sort of relationship.

However, it also suggests the "I'm not dating anybody in particular" notion.

If the timing is right, this line can be most effective.

Dating: Japan Values Tradition

At last, the actual relationship begins.

Let's study the first step of the relationship, "dating".

In Japanese it is called AIBIKI.

Begin with the proper invitation.

Many Japanese customarily use a YABUMI

when sending an important message.

Write passionate words on ORIGAMI paper,

tie it to an arrow and fire.

Many Japanese practice YABUMI when they reach a certain age.

The more effective YABUMI is done on horseback.

The reason: it's cool (KAKKOII).

At last... dating begins.

For Japanese, dating consists mainly of walking side-by-side.

There is a tradition based on the intimacy of the relationship.

Stage 1: Walking

Stage 2: Skipping

Stage 3: Sprinting

As their intimacy develops further, holding hands is permitted.

There are stages for holding hands as well.

Stage 1: Pinky Walking

Stage 2: Normal Hand Holding

Stage 3: High Five Walking

Rivals: Exterminating the Bad Guy

Rivals are par for the course.

If a rival appears, deal with him.

In Japan such a fight is called TAIMAN.

You do not say, "doing TAIMAN", but rather "asserting TAIMAN".

Thus all Japanese enjoy practicing the art of JUHJITSU.

Techniques include:

Shoulder Throw

Overhead Throw

Smash Cross Defense

Swastika Defense

Killer Aerial Assault Wave

Rolling Buddha Thunder

All Japanese men can do these.

Be sure to practice hard.

Forming Alliances: I never approved of you calling me Dad

In many cases, her father disapproves of the marriage.

I never approved of you calling me Dad.

You must avoid this situation.

We'll show how to make that father say, "What a fine lad".

The image those fools have of a "lad suitable for my daughter" is simple.

1) Earnest and polite.

2) Has a steady income.

3) Sports experience.

4) Kind to the old, kids, animals and plants.

Actually, I lost my father at a young age,

so being with you like this...

Sorry, never mind.

All you have to do is say the above and you have won the perfect match.

Proposing: The Greatest Rite

And finally... the proposal.

To propose one must wear what a SHIRO-SHOH-ZOKU,

traditional Japanese costume.

Then, race up a mountain.

Climb a 1000 year old cedar and scream towards the rising sun.

Don't forget a headband with the word MAKOTO (sincerity) inscribed.

Let's look at how these techniques are used in practical life.

Oh!

Hey!

It always the same customers.

Shut up. Lots of regulars is good.

Lots?

Don't kick back. Get to work!

Not now...

I'm enjoying the boss's unique flavor.

It tastes like any other coffee.

That's inexcusable.

Novices are the worst. Right, boss?

Hey, I know the taste of coffee.

No, my tongue knows better.

No, my tongue does.

Welcome.

Huh?

#1 Tailing

#2 The Train Pass as a Start

#3 Good Impression with a Smiling Face

You...

You remembered. What a coincidence!

Exactly... six days ago.

Thanks again.

It was nothing.

What'll you have?

Double espresso! Doubled!

Double espresso... two?

Sure.

Dad, where's Atsuko's order?

Coming right up.

Give it here.

What the...

Let me...

#3 Tough Guy Appeal

Thank you.

Don't mention it.

So?

Baseball.

Ohhh baseball.

Hi cutie. What's your name?

Atsuko.

No, the dog's.

Hachi.

Hachi old boy.

Hachi!

Here you go.

Sorry to bother you.

No problem. How lucky to find a kind man...

Yoko.