Sex Sells - Third Season

- This series contains themes and images of a sexual nature.

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or services featured in this episode, but I do.

So use 'em at your own risk,

if you're into that kind of thing.

We should get the song down before we get there.

- I would like to do that. - Dick Doc from TikTok. No.

I'm Weezy, join me as we go coast to coast

in search of the baddest bosses

behind the business of sex.

Dive in with me as we explore sexual wellness and positivity

from the boardroom

to the bedroom.

Don't look at it, Mom.

So enjoy the ride because "Sex Sells."

This is a PSA, a Phallus Service Announcement

Today on "Sex Sells," we go balls deep into men's health

to not only start the conversation

but hopefully change the way that we talk about dick.

Sounds cocky but I believe in us.

I'm here today to have some form of a panel

with Jacob, Julian, and Court

to discuss the health and wellbeing of their penises.

And we're here with Michelle Renee

to guide that dick conversation.

Thank you for having me.

- Can you tell us why exactly you're perfectly fit

for this talk today?

- I'm a surrogate partner and intimacy coach.

I work with primarily single men who have been in therapy

and they've struggled to have relationships.

And so if they've kind of gotten stuck in therapy,

I come in and build a relationship with them.

But it's all about the full spectrum of intimacy.

We're trying to create emotional intimacy and safety

and we can take it to sex.

It's much more about learning how to communicate

and the real foundational relationship skills.

- I really want other people to see this dialogue

and understand that they should be talking

about their cock health, too.

How would you describe your dicks?

- Can of tuna. - Can of tuna, huh?

Wow.

Short, thick?

I'm just big the other way.

That's what I call it

- Big the other way. - Yeah.

What about you?

- I think if you haven't seen another penis

up close, live, and in the flesh for a couple months,

then yeah, it's pretty,

I think that's where I am.

- A pretty good dick? - Yeah.

The the big side of comfortable.

But I think it's so hard to, as a man, self-assess.

For me it really is just what I've been told by partners,

and I feel like there's normal big dick

and then there's monster cock.

- Oh yeah. - I think that's something

that you see a lot in, you know-

- I've said no. - The porn

that we grow up on, yeah.

- I do feel insecure sometimes when I see that

because a lot of guys are like that.

They're size queens, are what we call it in the community.

- I know. I think I was size queen, too, until I get it

and I'm like, "No, no, no, no, nevermind."

Have any of you guys ever measured your dicks?

- I did. - Everybody measures it right?

- Yeah, I think I was either 14 or 15.

We measured and we came back the next day.

I said, "Did you measure as the crow flies

from the tip to the base or along the curve?"

And he said, "What curve?"

And we were like, "Whoa.

Our penises are different shapes!"

And then we realized we still needed

to do the circumference and stuff

and so we were measuring volume in addition

to length and stuff.

- Are men as consumed with the size

of their balls as they are with the size of their penis?

- As long as the penis is bigger than the balls, I'm good.

- People talk about how the tricep

makes the bicep look bigger.

The balls are the tricep of the penis.

- Oh. - Yeah.

That's a good one.

How would you describe his penis?

For all of America? - Yes. Scale of one to 10.

One being you could do better and then 10 being

the best dick of all. - It's 11, isn't it?

I got a strong- - Five/six.

- Five/six. - Whoa!

- Oh my god. Divorce! - I love it.

I love it, I love it, I love it.

- Where could the extra four points,

five to four points, come from?

Someone else?

King Noire, he's got a huge personality,

throbbing kind heart, and a girthy career in porn.

Oh, and he has a dick so unbelievably hung,

it should be its own independent contractor.

- What's up, what's up? How are you?

I'm great.

I almost don't know how to start this

'cause I'm so nervous 'cause you have a towel on.

You want me to go put

on some jeans or something? - No, no!

This is really great for me. - But I'd look crazy.

Everyone talks about how amazing your dick is.

Is that pressure?

- Everybody is built differently, fit differently.

You know what I'm saying?

There's bigger, there's smaller, there's wider,

there's skinnier, some are curved.

You know what I'm saying?

So everybody, to me I think, it's like,

we all like what we like.

- Tell me a little bit about how making money off

of your penis is empowering for you.

I'm an exhibitionist for sure.

So that part is a turn on. - Mm-hmm.

But for me it's empowering

because I actually started in sex work

when I was 18, when I was legally able to do so,

when I was homeless, you know what I'm saying?

So I was couch surfing, sleeping on a train,

sleeping in a park, all kinds of shit like that.

And I kind of fell into this through a homegirl.

That was the first time that I got paid

for just some sex shit.

- Obviously, BBC is a term used worldwide

and people get super obsessive

and it even leans into cuckolding.

How have you kind of changed that around for yourself

and not felt, I don't know, overpowered by it

or like you were just your big Black dick,

you know what I mean?

- You know Jazz and I have a lecture series

that we've been working on for a while

talking about the decolonization of sex.

And when it comes to BBC and the obsession,

especially with white folks obsession with Black dick,

it comes down to how they used to purchase us

on the auction block.

'Cause a lot of Black men who might not have

what is considered the BBC or whatever,

it fucks with your head. - Yeah.

- Or even if you do have a big dick,

is it big enough to whatever the fuck?

Like people are expecting this of me.

I have to be this super sexual person or I have to be a dom.

I can't be a sub or a switch or all these things

that then limit Black men's sexual expression.

So working to decolonize that has been

something I've done since I first was in this industry.

And I was like, "You wanna call me what?"

Like you're not attracted to me.

You're attracted to the idea of the power

that you receive to reduce me to just the body part.

So always working to do that.

So what is dick envy?

- I clearly want what I don't have.

- Mm-hmm. - I've seen it in porn,

I've seen it in locker room, I don't know.

Your dad, whatever.

- The only time I ever experienced dick envy,

it was with my dad.

I was like 15 years old,

saw my dad's dick when he was coming out of the shower,

and I was just like, "All right, cool.

I got some to look forward to then," you know?

And then it never got there.

- I actually do have dick envy with my father

and my brother. I asked my mom and my dad, I said,

"Were you guys just being lazy when I was born?"

I said, "Why is my brother circumcised

and my father but I'm not?"

I said, "Was it too much? Does it cost?

What's going on here?"

- Was it the cost. - I feel like my dick

is not as its full potential.

- I can't believe the complex around uncircumcised dick.

And I think women are really to blame

and maybe men that don't clean themselves well,

but women just do so much shaming.

- A lot of my homegirls talk so much shit about guys

that are uncircumcised.

I'm like, "Bitch, your best friend is uncircumcised."

- Dick perception versus reality.

Tell us a little bit about what men have said

to you in your experience?

- Most of the time there's a mismatch, right?

It's either,

it's usually some kind of message

that they're really holding on tight to.

Like I have a client that is not circumcised

and it has held him back from dating.