Tony Robbins: I Am Not Your Guru

Why were you suicidal?

It's because going through very big states in life,

but I can go so deep that I don't see a way out.

-Yes. -And I am looking for a way to...

to get out of my body or to hate myself or to--

I can explain the deep and I don't find a way out.

What makes you hate yourself?

Is it the red shoes?

-What? -Is it the red shoes?

-No. -Okay.

Are you sure? 'Cause they're fucking red.

Don't you be smiling like that. You'll fuck everything up.

If you smile like that too much, you'll wanna stick around.

You've been so hard on yourself.

I love that you have such high standards.

But those aren't high standards. That's called "perfection."

And most people overestimate what they can do in a year,

and they underestimate what they can do in two or three decades.

And you haven't been around long enough to have those extra two or three decades,

so don't fuck it up.

There's time.

And if you give yourself just a little bit of time...

and if you'll be a little more loving to yourself...

I think you're gonna find you got a lot to give.

I can fucking feel it.

And I know fucking people. And you know I do.

- That's right. -Thank you.

And I know you right now.

-Can you feel me? -Yes, I do.

So, you and I are gonna make a deal.

I'm gonna show you what to do to reshape yourself.

That would be nice.

And we're gonna make it so you could enjoy yourself.

Oh, are you sure?

Not just when you're jerking off, other times, too.

Yeah.

How's that?

And what you're gonna do

is you're gonna remember as long as you live...

that I don't fucking bullshit.

And you've seen it, haven't you?

Yes.

Do I tell the fucking truth?

Even when it's painful? Even when it's not sweet?

Yes.

I'm telling you the truth.

You've just fucking begun and you're not gonna fuck it up.

You're gonna take the time to fully develop

and you're gonna find a way to enjoy a little bit along the way.

There you go.

-Did you feel that? -Yes.

What was that, that just happened?

What just happened there when these came down like that?

And you started breathing here, too.

Um, start believing you and be open.

Oh... That's it.

I'm a kid from Azusa, California,

who did not have any fucking certainty,

but I was certain of one thing.

I was not about to grow up and have a family

that was gonna go through what I went through.

And so, I constructed this fucking Tony Robbins guy.

I constructed him. I created him.

He was me but I built this motherfucker.

Our next guest is a number one bestselling author

whose books and seminars have helped inspire

more than 50 million people to transform their lives.

He's perhaps best known for his three decades of work

in the field of self-improvement.

More than four million people around the world

have attended one of his live events.

I was looking at the list of people that you have helped.

Bill Clinton, Princess Diana,

Mikhail Gorbachev, Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela.

These are, like, the icons of my lifetime.

I would do these incantations where I would say over and over again,

"I'm fucking unstoppable. I'm fucking--" And I would just...

I would say that for an hour while I would go on a run.

Till pretty soon, after days of that shit, what do you think was in my head?

Everyone needs a compelling future.

Everyone needs something to move towards.

If you don't have something to move towards,

you settle for where things are.

I would get up and I had no money.

Then I'd say, "God's wealth is circulating in my life.

His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance.

All my needs, desires, and goals

are met instantaneously by infinite intelligence,

for I am one with God, and God is everything."

Then I'd see God's wealth in the love, in the friendships,

in the insights, in the ideas, in the emotion,

in the fucking energy in my body and my soul,

in my hunger and my desire to breakthrough and make things happen.

I didn't just say the fucking words.

Every day, work harder on yourself than anything else.

'Cause if you become more intelligent, more valuable, more skilled,

you can add more value to other people.

I realized if I'm gonna get to my ultimate destiny, I gotta be smarter.

Who am I ultimately wanting to become or what is the destiny I'm here for?

So, I created this thing called "Date With Destiny."

If I could uncover what beliefs and values control me,

I could literally redesign me.

I created this motherfucker standing here.

Three, two, one, go.

What's the best way for us to interact with you?

I think we're gonna wanna

-bring our own camera in there, so. - Sure.

I'll have one camera on Tony and one camera on the intervention,

but I don't wanna screw up what you're doing.

The challenge is, a lot of--

We never know where he's gonna go with the interventions.

Tony can be in a great spot down in the front

where we can nail it with four cameras,

or it can be back here, you know, with a crowd of people around

and we're completely blocked by everyone.

How're you feeling about things?

I feel great. I've been with so many people over so many decades

in so many different environments.

What I love is the uncertainty of what's gonna happen,

but I also have absolute faith I know it'll unfold in a beautiful way.

Do you get nervous?

-Is there, like, stage fright? - No.

Is there, like... Or anything like that?

No, no, there's no stage fright.

This is gonna be a beautiful adventure and a journey, and it always is.

Every single one is different.

Every single one has these extraordinary stories.

Every single one has some crazy moments.

And I'm glad you're just coming on the journey to check it out.

Test. One, two, check.

One, two.

I'm letting the CIS in in about four minutes.

Four minutes, 11:28.

And he's on the fly in about 15.

We're about ten minutes from doors.

Tony's team is with him at the house,

and then we're on this side so we're in constant texting communication.

He wants to know the energy in the room.

How's the registration process?

What are our numbers? Are flights delayed? Everything.

Go ahead.

Okay, so the exercise,

"What's great? What's missing? Why are you here?"

I use the intervention

-to teach principles in the middle of it. -100%.

I love that. That's my favorite way to do it.

That allows me to then circle back and I'll have them

create their compelling view of what extraordinary life looks like.

-Yep. -And that'll open up some shares.

And that'll open up some more interventions,

and we'll be rockin' and rollin'.

We're super excited to have you!

There are quite a few of you, as you might see.

If I could get everyone who's here to please stand up,

so we can unblock our exits, get excited.

We're gonna leave at 11:30, so right now it is...

- It's 11:00 now. -It's 11:00 even?

Yep.

So, I can do... Yeah, I can do ten minutes and stop on time.

Fifty-seven degrees, baby. Whoa!

There are so many people there,

and they've been in the room since 11:30.

Timing it so that he walks out and it's just an utter buildup of energy

is just so important for him.

He gets there, walks up on stage, and just everyone's at a peak.

- Okay. Good morning. -Good morning.

So here's your old one. And here's the new one.

Mary told me you wanted to switch these two, so I switched 'em.

-Okay, cool. -Yeah.

Jay, what do you think on timing this morning?

-Twenty-five minutes. -Perfect.

What is "Date With Destiny" from your perspective?

From my perspective,

it's a place that you go to uncover who you really are

and what you're really about at this stage of your life.

Who is this program right for? Anybody who's hungry.

Anybody who's looking for more.

If you're not hungry, it's the absolute wrong program for you.

Don't even think about coming. You get eaten alive in this environment.

But for somebody that's hungry...

I got an experience for you, baby.

I'm bringing a mirror. I'm bringing crazy tools.

I mean, I'll be off the charts.

I'll be weird. I'll be bizarre. I'll seem gross.

I'll use the science of taboo language

because words have the power to pierce the conscious mind.

Look, I'll do whatever the eff it takes to break the pattern,

so you can reclaim who you really are.

Welcome to the stage, Mr. Anthony Robbins!

Whoa!

Come on, guys! Come on!

Come on!

Whoa!

How're you doing out there, ladies and gentlemen?

Welcome to "Date With Destiny 2014," and for some of you, welcome home.

Good to see you.

Start your morning-- It's afternoon now, with 12 good morning high-fives, hugs.

Go for it. Introduce yourselves. Connect.

All right, grab a seat.

Thank you for the warm welcome. What have you gotten yourself into?